May 15, 2013

Happiness is....

In the last two months what I have learned about happiness is that it really is important in all aspects of life not just in a single aspect. If you are not happy in all aspects of your life from home to work you aren't really happy in any aspect of your life.

Let's use me as an example since I am sort of familiar with my situation. Two months ago I was happy with my home life (although not with my home) but I wasn't at all happy with my work life. I was working in a position I had been working in for about two years at a company I had been working at for about 12 years. Each day I would wake up filled with dread about what the day would bring and counting down every hour of every day until 5 o'clock on Friday afternoon when I would be "free" for a measly two days (one of those days spent dreading having to return to work on Monday morning). I wasn't spending the amount of time I wanted to spend with Tyson or Little K, only seeing Tyson for a few minutes before he was off to work and only seeing Little K for a few hours before it was bed time. Although my co-workers were awesome and my direct supervisor was outstanding other work associates were not so pleasant to deal with on a day to day basis as I was required to do.

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I got sick, very very sick. I was out of work for over a month. As I lay in the hospital and then at home I realized that although work stress didn't create my illness I am sure it aided in making it worse. During that long period off I made a life changing decision I had put off making due to the great benefits my company offered. I decided I would quit my steady job, give up my great benefits, and follow my dream to live by the ocean. It wasn't the first time I had thought about doing such a thing but it was the first time I had actually acted on it, the biggest factor in my decision was making this change before Little K was old enough to start school. I didn't want to move her away from friends and schools she had known all her life.

 I was nervous about leaving my job without another job and I was nervous about relocating to an area I wasn't overly familiar with. I'm not even going to lie and tell you it has been an easy road because it hasn't, there were times I was sure we were going to fail miserably and have to return to our old lives with our tails between our legs. With encouragement and help from family and friends we stayed the course and I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Not only can I see the light I am truly happy! Do I have my dream job? No because as far as I know they don't pay people to lay on the beach and read books all day! I do have a job that is much less stressful and allows me to work at home close to Little K and Tyson so I am not spending so many hours away from them. Do I have my dream house? No, I haven't won any lotteries yet so I am not ocean front and my home office is in my bedroom but it's still 100 times better than my old home and office.

I guess what I am trying to say is happiness doesn't just come to you; you have to chase down happiness and make it yours. I'll be 36 years old tomorrow and I'm happy with no regrets about the choices I have made. How many of you can say the same?

7 comments:

  1. I'm so proud of you and Tyson and the life you're making for Little K. She couldn't have asked for better parents, or for anyone who loved her more. I remember the day you were born, full of hope and promise, and the joy you brought to our family. You were the FIRST....the first daughter, the first grand-daughter, the first niece....and I tried to do my part to help you become whatever you wanted to be. To see you achieve your dream is so rewarding...even though I'm SOOO jealous. If the weather ever cooperates, I hope to see you all many times this summer. Happy Birthday. I'm so proud to know you!

    Aunt Lynn

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    1. Awww thank you! I love you too and we can't wait to see you!

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  2. Reading this brought tears to my eyes. I knew how much you disliked you old job and how much you wanted to move to the beach, but maybe not the extent of how miserable you were. I'm so happy that you are finally at peace and happy! I'm an a huge advocate of never moving a childs school (leftover childhood baggage) so I think that you made a great decision. Plus, your pretty close to me now!! Love you!!
    Keisha

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    1. I was horribly miserable! I remember how hard moving down South and leaving all my friends was and I just don't want that for Little K. I'm so glad to be where I am and so glad I'm closer to you! Love you back!

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  3. Good for you Kelli! I think it's awesome that you changed your life to make it what you wanted. I am sending positive thoughts and happy vibes your way :)

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  4. Kelli, I am so happy for you, Tyson and Little K, you made a big decision and went for it and look how wonderful it turned out. We have worked together a long time and I know how unhappy you were! To read this blog and feel your happiness is wonderful! You did it! Maybe one day I will bump into you walking on the beach, because I want to live there too and will, we will smile, have some laughs about the time we worked together and know we got out!!! All my love for you guys and I will keep reading! Enjoy that new life of yours, you deserve it!!

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  5. Found this post and it cheered me up :-) I think I have to be more proactive about my happiness too.

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